• Home
  • Meet Sarah
  • Free Starter Kit
  • Shop Resources
  • Search

How Wee Learn

Out of the box learning ideas, playful art, exploring nature, and simple living - that is How We Learn!

  • Quiet Time
  • Letters and Numbers
  • Art
  • Science
  • Get Outside
  • Shop

How to Become a Mindful Mama

April 26, 2019 by Sarah Leave a Comment

My early motherhood experience felt like a continuous quest for the next point of comfort. At first it was milestones, like “once the baby sleeps through the night” or “once she starts taking a bottle”. When I realized those dreams were illusive and perhaps unattainable, I started aiming for more short-term reprieves, like nap time or bed time.

I was just so desperate for some peace, and believed my internal peace would come from the harmonious alignment of my external circumstances.  

I have come a long way from those days, and while my baseline level of peace in my motherhood is much higher now, I recognize that this journey towards Mindful Motherhood is a continuous one. I have not arrived and oddly, arrival is not even my goal. The practice of mindfulness is a process that is never complete, but always unfolding.

How to become a mindful mom! These three things completely changed how I parent and how I am raising my children. Being intentional and in the moment is so much easier now. Great advice for gentle and attached parenting. #howweelearn #gentleparenting #attachment #parentingtips #momtips #mindfulness #mindful #mindfulparenting #homeschooling #homeschoolingtips #stayathomemom #momlife

Here are three essential concepts that have helped me develop mindfulness in my motherhood:

Ride the Waves

The swings between ecstatic highs and darkest lows can occur within a few moments of each other in motherhood. Part of Mindful Motherhood is learning the art of riding the waves instead of attaching to them.

When your toddler won’t stop biting his brother, it is easy to start assigning narratives like “he is in his terrible two’s”, or “he is doomed to be a bully”. Don’t try to be your child’s fortuneteller. Everything has a season, and most behaviors are simply a part of their stage of development. Ride that wave; feel the swell and let it drop off in its good time. 

Develop a Vision

Do you notice other mothers who seem to have that quiet peace and satisfaction in their motherhood? Me too. Do you slightly resent them? I used to too.

Now, though, instead of envying them, I channel them. I consider what it must feel like to be them, notice how they respond to their children, and try to emulate it. Not just in my actions, but also in my feelings. Having a motherhood alter-ego is a terrific and helpful tool to becoming the mother you want to be because it casts a vision. Knowing who you want to become is a critical first step to actually becoming them.

Choose Your Attention

I remember thinking that I had “no time” when I had my first child… and then along came my second. I quickly realized that I did in fact used to have some time – I just paid no attention to it. All I could see was the time I spent caring for my baby.

Paying attention to all the difficulties of motherhood left me struggling with persistent feelings of being trapped. Trapped by my children’s needs, by the burden of housekeeping, by the constant pace, by the absence of breaks.

Here’s what I gradually came to understand: Motherhood is not a trap – my negative thoughts about motherhood are the trap. Once I realized this, everything changed. Not immediately, but with each subsequent choice to attend to my thoughts of opportunity, solution, and growth, I took off the trap of motherhood and stepped into the gift that it truly is.

How to become a mindful mom! These three things completely changed how I parent and how I am raising my children. Being intentional and in the moment is so much easier now. Great advice for gentle and attached parenting. #howweelearn #gentleparenting #attachment #parentingtips #momtips #mindfulness #mindful #mindfulparenting #homeschooling #homeschoolingtips #stayathomemom #momlife

To me, Mindful Motherhood is intentionally cultivating a mutually joyful relationship with my child. It means living tuned in to the frequency of my own heart, as well as the hearts of my children. It means accepting authority over my mind, rather than allowing my thoughts to dictate where my energy is expended.

Mindful parenting did not come naturally, but through deliberate research, intentional practice, and nurtured habits that serve as reminders of who I want to become. I hope the advice I offer can be a starting point for you on your Mindful Motherhood journey.

This post was written by my beautiful and talented friend Christie. I have asked Christie to share a post with me each month, as I find I have so much I can learn from her. I want her to be my personal parenting coach! I hope you enjoy her posts as much as I do.  

If you liked this post, you might also be interested in this post I wrote previously on a few tangible things I do each day that help me to be a Calm Mom. You can read that post right here: How I Became a Calm Mom.

Three simple things to do each day that have made me a calm mom! An ideal gentle parenting article for those of us striving and beginning.

Thank you so much for reading friends,

xo
Sarah

20 minutes a day and watch those behaviours disappear …

Get your eBook here

Filed Under: Life, Quiet Time Tagged With: gentle parenting, mindfulness, Quiet time

« Easter Weekend Activities and Crafts!
7 Stellar Sidewalk Chalk Games for Kids »

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

The maximum upload file size: 512 MB. You can upload: image, audio, video, document, spreadsheet, interactive, other. Drop file here

Reignite a love of learning in your homeschool. Family Unit Studies Annual Sale: Save $80 Until July 1st

I'm Sarah, teacher turned homeschooling mom of 4, reading specialist, and curriculum creator. I share our adventures, crafts, and learning activities right here with you.

While you're here, grab my Learning Letters Starter Kit absolutely free! Teaching the letters in this special order allows reading to flow naturally.

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • YouTube
Step 1: Play into Kindergarten Readiness
Step 2: Kindergarten at Home
Step 3: Family Unit Studies
Step 4: Core Skills Coursebooks

Visit my Sponsor Oak Meadow

For every step of your journey
  • For Ages 2-3
  • For Ages 4-5
  • For Ages 6-8
  • For Ages 6-12
  • For All Ages

Shop Resources


Copyright © 2022 · How Wee Learn · Privacy Policy · designed by blogger boutique · Genesis Framework

This website uses cookies to improve your experience. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish.Accept Read More

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience.
Necessary
Always Enabled
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.
Non-necessary
Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.
SAVE & ACCEPT
187 shares
  • 57