A good friend of mine told me that she is working on strengthening one parenting skill every month. I found that pretty admirable. And while things often seem sunshine and butterflies in this space, there are many parenting skills I could strengthen.
Many is probably not the right word … loads? Plenty? Let’s just stick with many, it has a sort of optimistic ring to it.
The one that I have been working on this month is to say, “take your time” whenever I would otherwise say, “hurry up.”
Good grief I say that a lot! And what, one might ask, am I hurrying for? We are almost always home, and I am quite organized when we head anywhere, so it is amazingly infrequent that we are actually in a hurry.
And yet I would say it all day long. While getting shoes on, “Hurry, hurry please”. While buckling in the car, “Would you like me to do it, or can you do it quickly?” While strolling for a leisurely walk to nowhere and my little ones have stopped to gather stones, “Lets keep going guys”.
It is rather amazing what this simple change has done to our day. The boys are slower and calmer, and so am I. We are taking time to explore and investigate and play far more.
And yes, things do take us quite a bit longer, but why does it matter? So our ten minute walk took thirty — we had no plans and we happened to see and play with snails along the way.
That moment, as it should happen, was Ben’s most favourite thing that happened all week long. And all it took was a little bit of time to explore some bugs while out on a walk.
Hmmm … are snails bugs? I’m thinking they are not. But I’m not sure what they are – apparently I have many areas that could use some strengthening. Yes, plenty.
That’s okay, I will give myself time too.
Thank you for reading friends, hope you are enjoying your week!
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